Wedding Ceremony in Wales
“Helen helped us develop our ideas into a ceremony that felt true to us as a couple and genuinely reflected the love felt in the room.” – Jaclyn and Tom
All that effort that you’re putting into your day – your unique flowers, venue décor, dress…. but what about the most important part, the wedding ceremony?
Do you want to have something pre-formatted, such as in a church or civil ceremony? Or would you like to have your wedding ceremony written just for you, introducing you as a couple with the history of your romance, your fads and foibles, enthusiasms and eccentricities woven into the script as much as (or as little) as you like.
You see, employing a professional celebrant (that’ll be me), will really lift your wedding into something extraordinary in a way that no set design or dress can do. Your ceremony is the star of the show, it’s what everybody is there to witness. If you’re thinking, “well, not really, they’re there for a party”, that’s because until now every ceremony has been the same.
We’re going to change all that.
There are many reasons that you may decide to have a celebrant–led ceremony.
❖ You want a personalised wedding ceremony. One which is unique to you and which everyone will remember as the highlight of your day.
❖ If you got married or formed your partnership in an exotic location abroad, you may want a ceremony back home.
❖ There is somewhere special where you want to get married but it doesn’t have a licence for a registrar.
❖ You want the same hymn in your wedding ceremony that your parents sung. In a registrar-led ceremony you are not allowed any religious content – including hymns.
❖ You’ve always dreamed that your wedding ceremony will be outside in the setting Summer Sun.
❖ You’re an alternative couple with specialist requirements for your day.
Together we can make your celebration a ceremony with words and deeds fit for the occasion.
Now comes the knitting, the tying, entwining into one
Mysterious involvement of two, whole, separate people
Into something altogether strange and changing, new and lovely…
Are you ready to create a unique ceremony?
Alternative Ceremonies for Couples
Some couples decide to formalise their relationship without becoming legally married. I can help you create a beautiful Commitment Ceremony which will leave no-one in any doubt of your dedication to each other.
Renewal of Vows
Celebrate your love by renewing vows which you have written with the hindsight of a happy marriage. How better to celebrate than to bring friends and family together to witness such a special occasion? Whether you want a small intimate affair or a grand celebration, let me guide you through a ceremony to reflect your life together.
FAQ’s on wedding ceremonies
Do I have to have lots of symbolism? No, your wedding will be absolutely beautiful without. Much of the beauty of a great ceremony derives from the words spoken. Most people have some sort of symbolic gesture, for example, an exchange of wedding rings. However, there’s an enormous range of extra touches we can put in your ceremony from very simple, like wedding band blessings or candle lighting, to elaborate hand-fasting ceremonies, shared loving cup/cocktail. Some bring all of your friends and family into the ceremony, some just a few family members or friends. I can help you decide exactly what’s right for you.
Is this the legal ceremony? In Wales and England, you have to have a licenced registrar- or minister-led marriage ceremony in order to be legally married. Most couples who have their ceremony with me complete the legalities of their marriage a few days before their “wedding day”, which they have with me. Some have been married already in another country. Think of it as separating the legal from the ceremonial, just as we do in many other walks in life (baby-naming/christening, funerals). On one occasion, we held the wedding before the legal ceremony since it was a surprise for the bride (It’s OK, she loved it!).
Do we have to have the legal ceremony? No, but understand you won’t then be legally married. However, what you will have done is commit yourself to another in the presence of those who are dear to you; you will have had a very meaningful “wedding ceremony”, or if you prefer, “commitment ceremony”. Equally moving is a simple commitment ceremony within which two people commit themselves to each other with no witness present but me.
Will you help us renew our vows? Yes, please, I’d love to. It would be a very similar process to a wedding ceremony, but with more to talk about compared to most. By the way, we can have a “vow renewal” without actually “re-inventing” your vows if that’s what you’d prefer. Years spent together as a couple can be celebrated beautifully through reflection and/or through symbolic gestures.
Do I have to/can I write my own vows? Yes, you can, no you don’t have to. Everyone is different, some love the idea and dive in. Others are keen but terrified at the thought of it. I can guide you in this, or simply write them for/with you. However, I will want your input as to what’s important to you. If you want simple vows which are traditional in nature, that’s OK as well.
Do you have a LGBTQ policy? I’m happy to join any two people in their wedding vows. I believe that love is love, whatever your belief, orientation or ability.
Can I hold my ceremony anywhere? Yes. Absolutely anywhere you want to. Assuming, of course you have permission from the land/building owner, no license is necessary. I even come with my own PA system for those outdoor wedding ceremonies.
How much notice do I need to give you? I created the surprise wedding mentioned above in a week. However, I suggest a little more notice than that for all our sanity, and to reserve the date. I tend to only attend one ceremony a day, so if anyone (not me, I hope.) is late, there’s no problem.
Can I have a hymn or a prayer at my ceremony? Yes. I personally have no problem with this. A friend of mine said she’d been disappointed that her daughter hadn’t had the hymn that she and her own mother had sung at their weddings, but it wasn’t allowed in the civil ceremony. Shame I hadn’t been a celebrant back then.
How does the process of having a “Treasured Ceremony” work? Once you’ve decided to employ me on your day, you reserve the date through paying your deposit. I’ll send you a questionnaire to get you thinking about what you’d like for your ceremony. We can stay in touch by email (or any other means) after this, for instance if you want to discuss any aspects of the ceremony. About three months before your big day, I’ll contact you to arrange to meet in person or online if we live far apart. Then, we’ll dig much deeper into you as a couple and as individuals. We often land on some appropriate symbolism as a result of this discussion and go into the details of how this will be done.
After our meeting, I write your script then send you a copy for approval. You can make as many changes as you like as often as you like. If you’d like a rehearsal, this can be arranged, though I’ve yet to have a couple who felt the need to have one. On the day, I’ll create a presentation script for you to keep, and ensure that any props we may need for symbolic gestures are in place.
I promise today to be your best friend, your companion and your number one, the Han Solo to your Leia.
I will be there for you through the good times, amazing times & awesome times. But importantly the difficult times
I vow to love you no less than I love the dog
I promise that I will never take you for granted, and always hold your hand
You are everything I always wanted, but all the things I never knew I needed. Simply put, loving you altered my chemistry.
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